Self-Relationship Coaching for Men | James J. Stamatelos, IFS Practitioner

What We Work On

Become your greatest ally

The most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves. The moment we come to peace inside is the moment fear of external judgment melts away.

Heal Emotional Wounds

We want self-collaboration, not self-conflict. Using Self-Compassion and Internal Family Systems (IFS), we go inside and release the emotional wounds that have held you back.

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Create Lasting Confidence

The most confident person in a room isn't one who thinks they can do anything. It's the person who feels so secure they don't need to be anyone but themselves.

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Know Who You Are

Why are you here? What makes you come alive? Are you pursuing what you really want, or making decisions from fear? The answers are waiting within.

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Unleash Your Potential

We were born with a fire meant to be shared. It's not about proving our worth, but demonstrating the worth we already know is within us. The world is asking for our gifts.

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Own Social Situations

Whether it's a job interview, friends, or dating — as your self-relationship improves, you'll take on everything with security and strength instead of anxiety.

Break Free →

IFS Training for Professionals

Motivated therapists and allied practitioners: take your IFS / Parts Work skills to the next level with in-depth experiential cohort training.

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Client Results

Results that speak for themselves

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I'm writing to you today as a better father, husband, and friend than I ever was before. Repairing my self-relationship allowed me to do everything better without the self-conflict I used to know.

— Bill, 38

Changing my self-relationship has changed my life. I'm actually pursuing my dreams. I always thought I had a self-discipline problem, but now I know it was just fear protecting me. The self-sabotage is gone.

— Emily, 40

You forced me to be honest and held me accountable while doing so in a calm, compassionate way. I always felt like you wanted the best for me and were invested in helping me figure out who I am and what I wanted.

— Jessica, 28

Insecurity used to rule my life. I used to get so nervous in social situations I'd avoid job fairs or anything involving social judgment. Now I'm actually able to choose between offers! Recruiters even commented on how confident and grounded I was.

— Paul, 22

In the past I used to get nervous in social situations and always felt like an outsider. Now I actually enjoy parties, am mentally present with my friends and family, and don't spend my day stressing about what everyone thinks about me.

— John, 21

When we started, I had no idea who I was or what I wanted to do with my life. By the time we were done I was beginning a new career, found the best relationship I've had so far, and learned to stand up for myself.

— Jenny, 24

Feedback from Parents

The change runs deeper than you expect

I've seen outstanding improvements since you started working with my son. He has developed a self-confidence I've never seen before and is talking about his future with hope and conviction. He's finally becoming the person my wife and I always knew he could be.

— Bill

Our son has spent 10 years in and out of therapy and doctor offices. This is the first time we're actually seeing results. We're very happy and can't wait to see where things go from here.

— Tim

Your work has helped all of us, not just my son. My wife and I don't feel like we're alone or have to save him anymore. Instead of trying to fix everything, we now play a more supportive role. The conflict is gone.

— Justin

This is the first time we've heard our daughter treat herself as someone she cares about. This is even making me rethink how I treat myself! Keep it up!

— Mary

I've spent years trying to let my son know that self-compassion would help, but he was never able to understand what I meant. Now that has changed. Having experienced the benefits myself, I'm excited to see what awaits him.

— Elena

Get Started

Schedule Your Free Consultation

Contact me via the form and we'll set a time for a free 20-minute phone consultation. This lets you get to know me, share what's going on, and learn how I can help.

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Contact me via the form on this page.
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Free 20-minute consultation. We'll schedule a phone call so you can get to know me, share what's going on, and hear how I can help — or I'll suggest a better path if this isn't the right fit.
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First session. If all goes well, we'll schedule your first session and go from there!

Rates & Details

Cost & Logistics

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$300 USD / 60-minute session. Reduced rates periodically available. Group sessions coming soon.

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Weekly sessions for new clients. US payments via Venmo or Zelle; international via Wise. Insurance does not cover coaching.

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No contract. Cancel at any time. Start with a single session.

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All sessions are remote. Borders are not a problem. I have worked with clients across the US, Canada, UK, France, Netherlands, Sweden, India, the Philippines, and more.

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